Matthew 18:15-20

How to Solve a Disagreement the Christian Way ~

If another Christian wrongs you in some way - don't just sit and stew. Go talk to him.  Notice it doesn't say, "Rub their nose in it.  Scream, yell, call him names, and demand your way."  Talk to him.  Let him know what is going on.  Be honest about your part in the problem and look for ways to make it right. 

If you can't reach an agreement.  Take a mediator or two.  No, these aren't people "on your side."  These are impartial people willing to listen to the problem and help with a solution.  Who knows, you might be in the wrong.  Mediators can also help keep misunderstandings from happening.  When you choose a mediator, choose someone who is wise and fair. 

If you still can't reach an agreement - take it to the pastor.  And then listen!!  This still isn't about getting your way, but about making things right between two people.  You may need to make some accommodations yourself.

If you still can't reach an agreement - discontinue your relationship with that person.  This doesn't mean you get to harbor hate, malice, or ill-will toward that person.  You don't get to talk behind their backs.  It's a clean break, move on.

Jesus promises that He will be with us as we seek to resolve differences, as we gather together in prayer, and as we seek His Will.  Pretty cool huh?